Tom's Diary

Initial Remarks

March, 2009 was a great month except for my cold.  I got a lot done on my blogs and I’m delighted to see that site bandwidth is up.  Spam is up too but I guess that goes with the territory.  I hope to improve my readership by putting relevant content on the blogs, especially that that I learn in my love quest. 

Both   [Mentat]   and   [Emmy]   came for visits and it’s nice to see the gas bills going down as the temperatures outside rise. 

[Emmy]   and I are still working on our relationship issues.  But I’m encouraged that I’ve found a possible solution.  Unfortunately, she’s not crazy about it.  I hope in the coming months that she’ll feel less threatened by it, and that we can get on with the business of finally resolving the problem.  I also hope to entice learned readers to comment in the blogs on our situation, and that from their advice, we’ll in turn find fulfillment in our erotic lives.

Accomplishments This Month

• Prepared all tax information for Mom’s and my tax forms.  I sent this to the tax preparer. 
• Entertained   [Emmy]   and   [Mentat].
• Attended a St. Patrick’s day party.
• Suspended my individual therapy.
• Solved several computer problems for Emmy, Mentat, and my friends in Sinking Valley.
• Published over 200 posts on the Tom’s Love Quest, Tom’s Diary, and Tom’s Views sites.
• Resolved all problems I was having with WordPress 2.7.1.
• Contracted a cold but have recovered from it completely.
• Upgraded all databases on the sites to MySQL 5.0.
• Placed Google ads on my home page.
• I lost weight and I now weigh 176 pounds.
• Disabled post revision history on the blogs.
• Modified the WordPress code to display up to 100 recent posts, instead of the published default, which is 15.
• Paid Mom’s bills.
• Resolved error 404 page problem on all blog sites.
• Got my sites to appear on Google, MSM, Ask.com, and several others.
• Created a home page (front page) for the blogs at http://tomhesley.com/.
• Posted many messages to the blindipod and portable-player mail lists.

Planned Accomplishments Next Month

• Post all email from years 2000 and 2001.
• Prepare for Philly trip in early May, 2009.
• File income tax forms.
• Look for more ways to make my blogs more visible in the search engines.
• Visit Emmy.

Difficult Issues Still Ongoing

• Emmy and I still miss the good sex.  No progress on this to report; a big reason why I stopped my individual therapy after four months.  We have a few other things to try both together and separately, and I’ll talk more about those in April.  I can’t imagine leaving Emmy however, even if we never get this worked out.  She just means too much and has become such a big part of my family now that life without her would be empty and sad.  So we’re keeping at this, looking for answers, and trying what we can.

Tom Hesley

I submitted site maps for all my sites to ask.com for inclusion in their search index.

Site backups went well yesterday. I have 25.1 MB of data on the sites so far. They’re growing!

All blogs are now running WordPress 2.7.1, and I’ve removed all older versions of WordPress from the web server.

I posted the the following new pieces lately to the Tom’s Love Quest site:

• My Jitters About Commitment
• Dear Emeebee: You Were Right
• Lust Fades Too Fast

Tom Hesley

04:50 AM: Posted the   Lust Fades Too Fast   piece to the   Tom’s Love Quest   blog.

05:00 PM: Created audio journal episode:  AJE-2009-03-29-16-57   on the Victor Reader Stream, in which I discussed  [Emmy]‘s valiant effort to understand that while I love her, I’m not   in   love with her and that I need to find that  in-love feeling from other women. 

08:50 PM: Posted the   Dear Emeebee: You Were Right   piece to the   Tom’s Love Quest   blog.

Tom Hesley

Related Posts

• Today’s Business: 2010-02-07
• Tom’s Love Quest: Dear Emeebee: You Were Right
• Tom’s Love Quest: Lust Fades Too Fast

Today,   [Emmy]   tried changing a rule in her Outlook 2003 email client so that all messages from the   Portable Player List   would be directed to a folder she’d created just for them.  However when she saved the newly modified rule, all the messages in her inbox disappeared.  She panicked, thinking that they’d been lost for good.  But fortunately, I was able to log onto her machine from here at home and poke around for the messages.  They turned up, thank goodness; all of them had been moved to her Portable Player folder.  So I moved all the ones not from the   Portable Player List   back to her inbox. 

I don’t know for sure how this happened.  So I can only speculate that she might have saved the rule before she’d finished editing the condition that sets which messages actually get moved.  If she saved the rule with this field blank, that might be how ALL messages in the inbox got moved.  But at least she and I got everything back to the way it was supposed to be.

We turned on the option that keeps copies of all her incoming email on her mail server.  That way, we’ll have copies there if she accidently deletes messages she wants to keep in the future.

Tom Hesley

Upgraded all blogs back to WordPress 2.7.1. The error in the Add New Posts edit box has not returned in any of them.

Enabled Permalinks on all blogs. These are supposed to provide more permanent URLs for each site post, and the Google crawlers like them better than dynamic URLs that have the ? in them.

It took several minutes for the permalinks to start working and took as long as 15 minutes on the Tom’s Love Quest blog.  But all seems to be well now.

Tom Hesley

I upgraded the Tom’s Diary blog to WordPress 2.7.1, and the errors did not return.  So perhaps it wasn’t 2.7.1 per se that was causing the problems.

I’ll investigate more later.

Tom Hesley

The errors I was seeing in the editor section of the Add New Post screen in WordPress have disappeared. True. I did downgrade all blogs from WordPress 2.7.1 back to WordPress 2.7. But it wasn’t until I upgraded to Internet Explorer 8 that those errors actually went away. I’m not sure which of either the WordPress downgrade or the Internet Explorer upgrade actually stopped the problems. However, since there are no errors now, I’ll attempt to upgrade one of the blogs back to WordPress 2.7.1 and see if the errors return. If they do, then we can be fairly certain that it’s the 2.7.1 upgrade that’s at fault.

Tom Hesley

The fever, runny nose, and the general feeling of tiredness are all gone, and I feel great. There’s still a slight cough but I’m hoping to be rid of that in the next two or three days. I’ve been able to get back to writing and to stay concentrated for hours at a time. I guess that means that I’m better now. Time to go back to work. And no, I never got to the doctor. The cold got better on its own.

Tom Hesley

03:00 PM: Created audio journal episode:   AJE-2009-03-25-14-42,   in which I discussed ending therapy yesterday, and I’ve decided to take   [Jack]   up on his offer to attend a foot party in Philadelphia. 

05:25 PM: Posted the   Mentat Left Today   piece.

06:40 PM: Posted the   The Cold Is Getting Better   piece.

Tom Hesley

Related Posts

• Mentat Left Today
• The Cold Is Getting Better
• Today’s Business: 2009-03-24
• Today’s Business: 2010-02-07

Well, I haven’t seen any fever since this past Saturday, and the green and yellow discharges have ceased. I’m still coughing though; but with each day, that tickling in my throat is getting less and less. After nine days of this, it looks like I’m on schedule to be over it at the end of fourteen days.

Fortunately, I didn’t have to visit the doctor; I don’t need to spend any money at present. So I was relieved that the cold symptoms improved on Monday. Sunday was the day I turned the corner on this cold; where the symptoms stopped getting worse and started improving. That’s usually how a cold runs through me, and so I usually take between two and three weeks to get over them.

Tom Hesley