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Today’s Business: 2011-03-31

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

Today’s Activities

  • Shower. DONE.
  • Cat duty. DONE.

Log

09:45 AM: I’m up. 

10:20 AM: Posted the   Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Anything Men Can Do, Women Can Do Better   piece.  I’ll add the detailed notes to this after the show airs later today.

10:25 AM: I just got word from the nursing home that Mom has been diagnosed with a pressure ulcer on her left lateral foot, stage 2.  The letter said that they’d call in the next few days with updates on this condition and they say that she’ll have to begin treatment for this wound presently.  I’ll get more details when we visit her later this week. 

01:30 PM: Watched today’s episode of   The Young and the Restless.

01:45 PM: I’ve scheduled an appointment with Mom’s dentist for Mom, to complete that dental work he started on her last summer. That appointment is scheduled in late April, 2011. 

02:10 PM: I’ve also scheduled an appointment for Mom with her eye specialist, for mid April, 2011, to get her failing left eye fixed, and have alerted the nursing home about both of these appointments.  They’ll see that she’s transported to each.  However, they request a family member be present with Mom.  I’ll try to be there but it may be difficult to coordinate this with the van I ride, particularly since these appointments are later in the day.  I may have to have one of my sisters come pick me up after Mom is finished at each appointment.    

03:00 PM: Nap time.  Back later.

04:30 PM: I’m awake again. 

05:30 PM: Watched and took notes from today’s   Dr. Phil   show, called   Anything Men Can Do, Women Can Do Better

06:45 PM: Entered the notes from that Dr. Phil show.  See them   here.

07:45 PM: Watched tonight’s episode of   NBC’s Nightly News   broadcast via the DVR. 

08:45 PM: Watched most of tonight’s  Parker / Spitzer   show on CNN.  Now, I’m calling   [Emmy]   to catch the remainder of tonight’s Penguins hockey game. 

10:11 PM: The Pens just lost to the Tampa Bay Lightning, 2 to 1. 

10:45 PM: Headed to bed.  Good night.

12:45 AM: Got up long enough to review today’s traffic stats on my blogs.  The thirty day unique keyword hit count has risen from 907 up to 917; yet another high record. Hiw high will it go?

01:00 AM: Back to bed with me.  Good night again.   

Tom Hesley

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  • Certified letter from Mom’s nursing home, telling us about her newly discovered pressure ulcer.
  • Credit card offer from Discover.  Not at this time, thanks.
  • Senior Scope newsletter from Blair Senior Services. 

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Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Anything Men Can Do, Women Can Do Better!

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

 Here are my notes from today’s brand new   Dr. Phil   episode:  Anything Men Can Do, Women Can Do Better!   

Segment 1 

Summary: Dr. Phil conducts playful tests on his guests to see if men or women perform better, instigating a humorous rivalry between the sexes.

They say women handle breakups, driving, doctoring, and a whole slew of other tasks.

Dr. Phil has partitioned the audience.  He’s put men on one side of the studio and women on the other.  He cited research the women have more effective memory than men. 

They’re showing a clip in which men and women are asked to look at a picture containing some small objects.  They give the subjects ten seconds to look at the picture.  Then they ask the subjects details about what they saw. Women generally displayed better recall in this clip at any rate.  Tyler and Jocelyn along with James and Ashley tried this test. There was one fellow who got it all correct, and a comedian joked that this was because he’s still single.  Comedian Kate Rigg assisted with this piece. 

Then, legal analyst and attorney Dan Abrams joined Dr. Phil on stage.  He’s the  author of the book: Man Down: Proof Beyond a Reasonable Doubt That Women Are Better Cops, Drivers, Gamblers, Spies, World Leaders, Beer Tasters, Hedge Fund Managers, and Just About Everything Else. In this publication, he cites numerous studies that he seems to say, prove that women perform better than men at many, many tasks.

Now they’re showing a clip done by comedian Kathleen Madigan.  She’s interviewing folks at a farmers market, asking them which sex they think is better at doing various things.  Also, comedian Kirk Fox does similar interviews at the same market.  Generally, the women interviewed thought women did better than men, while they guys felt that men did better.  This clip is definitely more geared to be more humorous than factual.

After the clip, the guests argued playfully about who really is better.

Also, Dr. Phil polls the audience, who each have a Pageant Gadget that allows them to vote on questions that the host asks, and then the results can be instantly tallied.  He asked first which sex deals with pain better.  85% of the ladies in his audience said that women deal with pain better, while 75% of the men in the audience felt that men handle pain better. 

Segment 2

They’re showing a TV clip montage with Dan Abrams appearing.  Abrams is also a legal analyst for the Good Morning America show from ABC. 

Abrams says that his book is “more credible coming from a man.”  If a woman were to write this, she’d probably be seen as an over-zealous feminist.  But a male author would not suffer this handicap. 

They’re setting up to wax Kirk Fox.  How will he deal with that pain?  He did okay as the hot wax was applied by screamed rather profusely when they ripped it away after cooling. 

They’re trying another pain test, involving ice water.  One man and one woman, each places a hand in a container of ice water.  Who can keep it in there the longest?  Abrams and Riggs are the contestants this time. 

Next: A mystery guest will come on who’s had to deal with lots of women around him his whole life. 

Segment 3

Four minutes and thirty seconds have elapsed since they put their hands into the ice water.  Dr. Phil ended the contest, calling it a draw, after nearly five minutes, not wanting to participants to injure their hands with frost bite. 

The next guest says he has six sisters, five daughters, three ex wives, two step daughters, one step mother; lots of women in his life.  They call him   The Hit Man. It’s David Foster, accompanied by his fiancé’ Yolanda Hadid.  Foster says that women are smarter than men.

Yolanda is European and says that she likes the man to be “king” in her house. 

Dr. Phil defers household issues to his wife Robin, calling their home “her domain.” 

Dr. Phil asks who drives better; men or women.  57% said women drive better and 43% said men make better motorists.  Abrams justified this by citing studies that show that men have more accidents, are killed more often, and pay higher auto insurance rates than women. 

Next, another couple comes onto the set who are arguing over which one is the better driver.   

Segment 4

They show a clip of this couple, driving and claiming to be the best driver.  But the man has more accidents and tickets on his record than does she. 

Now the good-natured debate about who drives better, men or women, continues.

Abrams says that women better handle breakups.   But one fellow in the audience feels that men are better at it because they’re “stronger.”  But a women in the audience thinks women do breakups better because they’re less selfish than men.  She thinks women show more concern about the feelings of their partner during a breakup than do men.  He thinks it’s easier to be a man because, “women suffer more.”  Abrams also says that when lightning strikes a person, that it’s a man who gets it 82% of the time.  This may be because men typically try to push the envelope of safety; wanting to get one more hole of golf in or mow one more row of grass before the storm hits.  Women apparently are more cautious.  He also claims that women make more effective police officers. 

Justin and Nicole are shown in a clip, disagreeing with each other over who’s the better driver.  He complains that she drives too slow, and pulls out too fast.  He says he does not feel safe with her at the wheel.  But she accuses him of speeding, getting numerous tickets, wrecking, and so on.  He hones his driving skills by driving in a circle around a tree. 

Dr. Phil asked the audience to vote on their Pageant Gadgets on which sex makes the better police officer.  75% say men are better policemen. But this contradicts what Abrams says in his book. 

Next, an ex female police officer gives her view on this question. 

Segment 5

They’re showing a clip of a fellow, Wayne who says he finds female officers tend to follow the book more, by never letting him go with a warning.  But male officers do this a lot. 

Heidi, the ex female police officer thinks men make better police officers.  She thinks that women aren’t large enough to effectively do the job and that the can get excessively emotional.  She’d rather have a male officer as a partner. 

Next, Dr. Phil asks if women make superior doctors to men.   

Segment 6

Dr. Lisa Masterson appears now, who is a co-host from the show The Doctors.  They showed a few clips of her in action on that show.   She says that she supports equality between the sexes and does not believe that there’s a clear distinction along sex lines in how well men and women perform as doctors.  But she admits that women are more maternal than men.  Masterson has written a book called   Paper Dollhouse.  But they really didn’t say what this book’s about. 

Abrams says that women multitask more effectively, and the female guests seem to concur. 

Dr. Phil is asking the viewers at home who makes better doctors (men or women) and invited them to visit    DrPhil.com   to enter their choices.  He also mentioned David Fosters new CD:  The Hit Man Returns, which is a follow-up to his 2008 CD:  The Hit Man

Segment 7

Dr. Phil thanks all the guests, comedians, doctors, et al.  He gave everyone in the audience copies of Dan Abrams book   Man Down,  Dr. Lisa Masterson’s book   Paper Dollhouse,  and David Foster’s CD  The Hit Man Returns.  He also thanked   Pageant Communications   for providing their   Pageant Gadgets

That’s the end of this episode.  Take care.

I’ll add the remaining segments presently.

Tom Hesley

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Today’s Diet: 2011-03-31

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

I keep this food diary to stay aware of just how many calories I’m eating daily, with the hope that it decreases the likelihood that I’ll overeat.    It seems to work, so here we go with another day…

Today’s weight: 180.0 pounds.  That’s down a pound from yesterday.  The 2011 year low weight so far: 177.5 pounds. The high weight is 184.5 pounds (established on 2011-03-07).

Today, I consumed the following items:

  • Herbal tea throughout the day. 0 calories.
  • 12:3o PM: 1 foot-long pulled pork sub from Sheetz.  800 calories.
  • 12:45 PM: 1 large Sheetz decaffeinated coffee.  150 calories.
  • 05:45 PM: 1 bowl of Cheerios with raisins, blueberries, and organic skim milk.  500 calories.
  • 08:50 PM: 1 bag of popcorn with Parmesan cheese, basil, and olive oil.  500 calories.

Total calories: 1950.

Tom Hesley

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Today’s Business: 2011-03-30

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

Today’s Activities

  • Shower. DONE.
  • Cat duty. DONE.

Log

09:30 AM: I’m up. 

10:00 AM: Watched CNN News for a half hour, that mostly covered the uprising in Libya and the ongoing nuclear disaster in Japan. 

11:15 AM: Posted the   Weekly Backups: 2011-03-26   piece. 

11:45 AM: Posted the   Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Deadly Consequences   piece.  I’ll add the detailed notes once they show this in this area.

12:00 PM: Went to balance my checking account.  It looks like I did not receive my January bank statement.  So, I called my bank to request it be sent. 

01:30 PM: Added the rest of the content to the   Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Troubled Teens: Crisis Point   piece. 

02:00 PM: Walked over to Sheetz for lunch.  Got a foot-long chicken sub with vegetables on a whole-grain bun.  Yum!

02:45 PM: Watched today’s episode of   The Young and the Restless   on the DVR.

04:00 PM: Watched and took notes from today’s episode of   Dr. Phil,   called   Deadly Consequences.

04:05 PM: Nap time.  Back later. 

05:55 PM: I’m awake again.  Now, I’m typing in my notes from today’s   Dr. Phil   show. 

07:35 PM: Finished posting all notes to today’s Dr. Phil show,   here.

09:15 PM: Journaled for an hour or so. 

11:00 PM: Talked with   [Emmy].

11:45 PM: Watched tonight’s episode of   NBC’s Nightly News   broadcast via the DVR.

12:05 AM: Reviewed today’s traffic stats on my blogs.  The thirty day unique keyword hit count has risen from 878 up to 907; yet another high record. Hiw high will it go?  I’m hoping it hits a thousand before it drops off. 

01:00 AM: Watched the 2011-03-27 episode of CBS’s   60 Minutes    news show via the DVR.

01:05 AM: Okay, I’m heading to bed.  So good night, and check back tomorrow for more, as I reach into the deep recesses of my mind, to pull out anything that will get me more visits on these blogs.  :-)   Take care. 

Tom Hesley

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  • Medical transport bill for Mom.
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Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Deadly Consequences

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

I’ll post the complete notes one this show airs in my locale.  Stand by.  Today’s   Dr. Phil   episode is called:   Deadly Consequences.  In the meantime, here’s a brief summary of this episode.

Segment 1

Summary: An abused widow admits to killing her husband but is then charged with premeditated (first degree) murder.

Background: Shannon was in a highly abusive relationship, called 911 to report that she had killed her husband.  She said she could not tolerate being manhandled and injured by his hands anymore.  At first, she says, they had a wonderful association.  They got together in 1988, and it was nearly twenty years before he first abused Shannon; talk about dogs lying in wait.  He became angry at her as they pulling away from their home in the car.  Then abruptly, he turned the care around and drove back.  Upon arrival, he dragged her by the hair out of the car and into the house, whereupon he proceeded to smack the wall, with her head!  She says he developed a chronically bad temper around this time and began routinely beating her with golf clubs, choked her, and threatened her with an assortment of weapons such as guns and knives. 

Then on March 21st, 2010, he woke up angry, and hit Shannon hard enough to force blood from her ear and lashed her with a clothes hanger.  Shannon noticed a deranged look in his eyes.  Then, fearing for her life, she picked up a gun on a nearby stand, and shot him to death. 

Shannon is now on stage with Dr. Phil, and claims to remember everything on that fateful day quite clearly, until her husband thumped her in the head.  Memory of events after that became fragmented. 

Shannon revealed that there were three children in the living room when all this went down.   In fact, the husband, after having taken a remote control from one of them to punish apparently, grew quickly enraged when Shannon returned the control to the child.  He then demanded that she join him in their bedroom to make her pay for defying him. 

Shannon did not get away she says, because her husband made it very hard for her to do so; taking her car or the keys to it, locking the gate so she could not drive out, and threatened her that he’d do bad things to her or their children if she did leave.  She felt ensnared.

Shannon says she shot her husband in self defense.  But prosecutors disagree.  They charged her with first degree premeditated murder, the penalty being life in prison.  She worries about her kids and how they’ll come to view her, for killing their father. 

This appears to be another installment episode in Dr. Phil’s   End The Silence On Domestic Violence   campaign. 

Curt Hopper, Shannon’s attorney has come to the show, and says that all the evidence points to self defense and that in Tennessee, a victim is not expected to first try to leave the situation before defending themselves. 

Dr. Phil says he believes her, and fully understands why she found it so hard to walk away.  He’s curious as to why the state questions her, particularly with all the evidence offered by neighbors.  He offers the typically large power imbalance between a man and a woman in defense of Shannon. 

Legal analyst Loni Coombs is also present, and Dr. Phil asked for her take on this case.  She says that they may have brought charges this severe to discourage vigilantism.  But she was shocked at the premeditated murder charge however.  But she revealed that Shannon herself has some history of doing violence to her husband that she called “mutual combat.” 

Next: Shannon’s aunt will appear and discuss what she knows.  Now, they’re showing pictures of Shannon’s injuries inflicted by her husband. 

Segment 2

Shannon feels that her life has been forever changed for the worse.  Even now that he’s gone, she still fears doing things that he warned her not to do with his threats of violence.  She did not call the police on him before his death because she feared that he’d kill her.  In fact, he threatened to kill the kids, and then bind her hands and force her to look at their corpses before killing her. 

Shannon’s aunt Joyce blames herself for what happened.  They showed a taped piece from her, where she expresses sadness and remorse for not knowing.  She wishes Shannon could stop having to “fight for her life.”  Shannon is still fighting though her husband is gone. 

Dr. Phil explained that abused women typically conceal it; particularly from those closest to them.   

Her attorney, Curt Hopper, says that they’ll not accept a plea bargain, certain that his client did not break any state statutes. 

Loni Coombs feels that the prosecutor will not be able to be victorious in this case.  She advise people in similar situations to take pictures of any injuries the abuser inflicts on them, along with any other relevant images, until they can escape, to prove the abuse. 

Dr. Phil argues against the “Why didn’t she just leave?” question, saying that when a person feels threatened to the degree that Shannon was, their primary focus is to avoid death, even if that means putting up with further threats.  He mentioned the   National Network To End Domestic Violence that victims can visit for help.  He wished Shannon well and really seemed to empathize with her situation.  Though he does not support ever killing someone when there’s a different way to get away, I understood him today that he does recognize that sometimes there is no other way.

Next, a couple faces their worst nightmare, when their own daughter plots their murder with her boyfriend.  The father ended up stabbed in the chest. 

Segment 3

Next guests, Donna and Mark, tell their story of how they were sleeping when their eighteen year-old daughter Jessica’s assailant boyfriend Kevin, entered their bedroom and stabbed Mark.   The next day, Jessica was charged with conspiracy to commit murder. 

Mark says he remembers waking up and feeling the stab.  Mark says he forgives Jessica, believing that while Jessica indeed worked on the planning with Kevin, she didn’t really believe that Kevin would do it. 

Donna heard noises and turned on the light, to discover Kevin with the knife.  She seems to have forgiven her daughter as well, and wants to know “how to get [her] daughter back.”

Jessica, after confessing to plotting her parents’ murder with Kevin, was found guilty of the conspiracy to commit murder charge and sentenced to twenty five years to life in prison.  Apparently, her motive was that she thought her parents were keeping the two of them apart. 

Dr. Phil questioned this couple about why they feel as though they’ve been victimized by the legal system, and how they could want their daughter back, she who has admitted to plotting their demise. 

Mark blames Jessica’s lapse in judgment on Kevin’s highly controlling, manipulative, and violent nature. He feels that Jessica doing this was way “out of character” for her. 

Next: Dr. Phil will play a recording made by one of his producers, who talked with Jessica from jail.   

Segment 4

Jessica blamed Kevin for her part in this.  She pleaded that he told her that murdering her parents was “something they needed to do” in order to be forever together.  He felt that it was her parents’ fault that they could not be together.  He assured her that they would not get caught by saying that they’d take the bodies to the desert and burn them.  She began to cry in the interview.   She says that she’s sorry and that she’ll probably never be able to forgive herself for the cold and calculating nature she demonstrated in this incident.  Finally, Jessica said she knows not why she did it.  But she just wants to go home. 

Donna admits to at first feeling shock and anger at her daughter, but has come to forgive her.  She believes that the time served so far has already reformed Jessica.

Dr. Phil appears to me to be skeptical of Jessica’s explanation that mark brainwashed her in essence.  He expected that Jessica would have stopped the planning as soon as the idea came up. 

Jessica and Kevin are now both in prison, and Jessica could remain there until 2025. 

Mark and Donna both say that they’d feel safe in their home if Jessica were released.  They’ve pardoned her in their minds.

Loni Coombs says that they could appeal the sentence.  But that would likely take years.  She says that it’s hard to undo a confession made before the jury.  So she’ll probably not get out until the current sentence is up.  It’s a strong case that the DA made, and the evidence along with her own admission, showed Jessica to be guilty. 

Dr. Phil advised them not to be so unconditionally trusting.  If she behaved this cruelly before, she’ll probably act that way again.   So she just may do this again if she gets out.  He also says that the role of the district attorney is to protect the public, not to cater to the wishes of the parents.  Even thought Mark and Donna have forgiven Jessica, that by no means erases the dangerous aspects of Jessica’s personality that along with Kevin’s, triggered this event in the first place.  He advised Mark and Donna that all they may be able to do, is to support her daughter and let her know during her remaining time in jail, that they forgive and love her.  He suggested that they be the “anchor” in Jessica’s life. 

Next: A woman was murdered in Mexico and her husband was accused of it.  But a neighbor does not think it possible that he could have done it. 

Segment 5

Bruce Beresford-Redman became the prime suspect in his wife Monica’s murder in Mexico. 

Monica’s sisters Carla and Geanne claim that Monica’s marriage was in trouble before she accompanied Bruce to Cancun.  They say that he cheated on Monica and treated her and their kids poorly.

They’re showing news clips from various points along this case. 

The sisters’ attorney is Alison Triessl. 

Bruce Beresford-Redman is now fighting extradition to Mexico to face this murder charge. 

Dr, Phil asks what Bruce’s motive would have been.  He also asks Coombs for her assessment of this case. 

The sisters say that she wanted a divorce while her husband did not. 

Jim Moret, the head correspondent for the Inside Edition television show has been following this case, and has come to the Dr. Phil show.  He’s written a book about his own life, called:   The Last Day Of My Life.  He says that close examination of those close to Monica seems to reveal a guilty man in her husband. 

Loni Coombs says too that there’s lots of evidence against Bruce. 

Next: A neighbor joins the conversation, who does not believe Bruce could kill his wife. 

Segment 6

The sisters and their attorney are making sure that Bruce is extradited to Mexico to face trial. 

Lori, a neighbor, doesn’t think Bruce is capable of murdering his wife.  She says that both Bruce and Monica were quite nice to her.  So she feels that this heinous act is way out of character for Bruce. 

Alice Triessl is the Burgos family attorney.   She says that the couple had been fighting over Bruce’s infidelity prior to the trip.  Also, Monica had moved some money around to protect it in the event that Bruce would leave.  Bruce took out a trip life insurance policy, that pays when someone dies while on a trip. 

Dr. Phil mentioned the  Monica Burgos Memorial Fund   web site, where visitors can donate to help bring Monica’s killer to justice. 

Segment 7

Dr. Phil thanks all the guests and lawyers.  He mentioned Moret’s book: The Last Day Of My Life   and recommends it fervently to his viewers.  He also referred folks who are locked into abusive and threatening relationships to the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800- 799-7233. 

That’s the end of this episode.  Take care.  

Tom Hesley

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Today’s Diet: 2011-03-30

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

I keep this food diary to stay aware of just how many calories I’m eating daily, with the hope that it decreases the likelihood that I’ll overeat.    It seems to work, so here we go with another day…

Today’s weight: 180.0 pounds.  That’s down a pound from yesterday.  The 2011 year low weight so far: 177.5 pounds. The high weight is 184.5 pounds (established on 2011-03-07).

Today, I consumed the following items:

  • Herbal tea throughout the day. 0 calories.
  • 10:15 AM: 2 cups of V8 vegetable juice.  100 calories.
  • 02:00 PM: 1 Sheetz MTO foot-long chicken sub.  800 calories.
  • 02:30 PM: 1 decaffeinated coffee with half & half.  150 calories.
  • 02:35 PM: 1 multivitamin.  0 calories.
  • 06:00 PM: 1 bowl of oatmeal with Parmesan cheese.  400 calories.
  • 09:40 PM: 1 bowl of Cheerios with bananas and organic skim milk.  600 calories.

Total calories: 2050.

Tom Hesley

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Today’s Business: 2011-03-29

Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

Today’s Activities

  • Shower. DONE.
  • Cat duty. DONE.

Log

08:50 AM: I’m up. 

10:15 AM: Posted the    Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Troubled Teens: Crisis Point   piece.  I’ll put the bulk of the notes into this later, once this show airs here. 

11:00 AM: Leaving to visit Mom at the nursing home.  Back later.

03:40 PM: I’m back home again. 

04:00 PM: Nap time.  Back later.

05:30 PM: I’m awake again.

06:30 PM: Visited Mom today.  Arrived at 11:40.  She seemed pretty happy. We had Texas hot dogs and fries for lunch, and she ate 1.5 hot dogs.  That’s great for Mom. Then, we went to physical therapy, where they got her to stand three times. Her legs seemed pretty steady; no wobbling or much weakness.  In fact, I’ve not seen her stronger since November.  So indeed, some progress is being made. She’s still mourning the loss of use of her legs.  This may take a long time for her to get over.  But she seemed happier today than she’s been for quite sometime, and that’s encouraging.   

07:30 PM: Watched and took notes from today’s   Dr. Phil   episode:   Troubled Teens: Crisis Point.  Notes   here.

08:30 PM: Watched today’s episode of   The Young and the Restless   on the DVR.

08:50 PM: Watched tonight’s episode of   NBC’s Nightly News   via the DVR.

09:15 PM: Talked with sister Mary Ann to update her on my take on Mom today.  All is well. 

11:00 PM: Talked with   [Emmy]   on the phone.  I did not however listen to the Penguins game with her tonight.  Had too many other things to take care of.  Good thing too as they lost to the Flyers. 

12:05 AM: Reviewed today’s traffic stats on my blogs.  The thirty day unique keyword hit count has risen from 860 up to 878; yet another high record. Hiw high will it go?  I’m hoping it hits a thousand before dropping off. 

12:15 AM: Bed time.  Good night and good morning. 

Tom Hesley

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Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Troubled Teens: Crisis Point

Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

Today’s   Dr. Phil   episode is called:   Troubled Teens: Crisis Point.  Here are the notes I took from it…

Segment 1

Summary: One of Dr. Phil’s most troubled parent couples returns.  Their kids are spoiled and appear to control the parents.  It seems like their last visit to the show hasn’t helped this situation much. Father spoils daughters.  Wife considers him a pushover.  Daughters behaving very badly (police records, incidents of violence against parents, drug use, Etc.).  In spite of all this, the wife thinks girls are managing alright at home even though the children routinely scream at and show aggression toward their parents.  In fact, this makes it seem like the daughters aren’t doing very well at all in their home environment.  These guests have appeared on the show before, and frustrated the viewers as well as the studio audience. 

Dr. Phil is now reading some of the messages he received after their last appearance, that seem to confirm this

Dr. Phil advised Kimberly and David to become stronger parents, as their daughters, Alexis (17) and Alaina (15) both appear to be way out of control.

Their daughters resist discipline, defy it, and seem to have no respect for their parents’ authority. 

Now, they’re showing footage of what’s been broadcast on the Dr. Phil show so far.

Alaina cares not about getting into trouble.  She admits to taking illicit drugs.  She was sent to a boarding school and appears to be making progress.  Alaina was doing well at Turnabout Ranch.

Alexis also finds herself in her parents’ doghouse more often than not.  She drives the car without permission.  In fact, she wanted a care for appearing on the show.  Alexis was not doing as well as Alaina at Turnabout Ranch.  But she liked the ranch because it allowed her to get away from home.  She feels that the ranch made her less judgmental and less angry.  She also felt that the ranch showed her how to be less “codependent” on her mother.  But after she made these statements, she got into more trouble.  She broke into her mom’s cell phone and read the text messages between Kimberly and David.  Then, she attacked her mom, as though she’d learned nothing at the ranch. 

David confirms that his girls manipulate him and that he’s just not strong enough to resist.  He would like them to like him.  David allowed the girls to go home before heading to Turnabout Ranch, against Dr. Phil’s advice and against his wife’s wishes. 

Kimberly acknowledges as well that her daughter Alexis is a manipulator.  She says that she’s worn down by Alexis’s verbal abuse, screaming, kicking, and hitting. 

David and Kimberly broke the rules of the boarding school; they let girls use cell phones, and gave them makeup.  They undermined the school’s efforts.   They’re not unified as to how to properly raise their kids. 

Dr. Phil points out to David that David is supposed to be a parent; not a popular friend.  David purchased a car for Alexis apparently to placate her, though she seriously disrespects him.  He calls them “clueless parents.”  Had Alexis acted violently toward him, he’d have called the police and had her thrown in jail.  Now, Dr. Phil is taking a poll, wanting to know if the current generation respects “parental authority” less than prior generations have.  He’s ready to “stop rewarding bad behavior,” as he put it. 

Next: David complains that Kimberly is too strict a disciplinarian.  He says she kept them home too much. 

Segment 2

David wishes to keep the girls happy but complains that they do indeed manipulate him.  He did not want the girls to attend boarding school after having spent time at the Turnabout Ranch, because he does not want to miss their growing up.  He accuses Kimberly of trying to enforce too many rules all the time, and wants them to feel somewhat free at least.  David does not agree with Dr. Phil, and sent him a nasty email to that effect.  He accused Dr. Phil of wanting to send the girls away because of some arrangement that David alleged that they have with the Aspen Education Group, the organization that runs the boarding school where Dr. Phil recommended the girls be placed. 

Kimberly accuses David of “enabling” their girls too much, and she refuses to allow David to further spoil them.   

Alaina has a police record.

Alexis was sneaking away at night, consuming alcohol, attending parties, taking Xanax, wrecked a car, being disrespectful and violent, and so on.   

Dr. Phil suggested what he called, “commando parenting,” and feels that the girls need to be removed temporarily from their current home environment.  Both the girls require intense counseling as I understood Dr. Phil, and the home environment (the parents) needs fixed as well.

Segment 3

David accused the show of not putting the girls needs first.  David sought opinion from other experts, who he says told him that the girls would do better if they remained at home. 

Dr. Phil was highly offended at David’s letter.  He feels that things are very much out of control at home for the girls, and doesn’t see why David does not see that.  The girls are suffering some of the difficulties that this “entitled generation” experiences.  Dr. Phil explained that there are approximately twenty members on his advisory board that cover psychology, sociology, and medicine are covered by highly skilled and experienced professionals.  Dr. Phil feels that the Aspen Group was the best organization to set the girls straight.  Dr. Phil suggested that David is more concerned with making himself feel good (always giving in to his daughters’ demands), than actually helping them improve.  Dr. Phil says to David that he’s certainly free to seek out other help besides what the Dr. Phil show has recommended, but that he should not expect Dr. Phil to pay for it.  Dr. Phil says that since he doesn’t support this game plan, he certainly would not pay for it. 

Though the Aspen therapist recommended the girls stay a while longer, he sensed that Kimberly and David were against this and that they felt they knew better about what’s best for their girls.   

Next: David has misgivings about sending Alaina to Swift River. 

Segment 4

Kimberly is concerned about Alexis’s new boyfriend of approximately seven months now.  She wants Alexis to learn to rely on herself for happiness, and not so much on a boyfriend. 

They’re discussing sending Alaina to Swift River; a continuation of her work on the Turnabout Ranch. 

Alaina wants to come home and will in fact, once her parents repair their approaches in the home environment. 

David, according to the emails he sent Dr. Phil, wants the Dr. Phil show to fund his choices of reparative programs for the girls, not the ones Dr. Phil has chosen. 

Next: Kimberly discusses how alone she feels, with David and the girls against the discipline that she’s trying to bring to bear at home.  Kimberly appears to be the one sane force throughout this family, while David is repeatedly manipulated by the girls and spoils them as a result. 

Segment 5

Kimberly says that David avoids the conflict he’d encounter by avoiding disciplining their girls.  She says that Alexis still manipulates them, is still quite unruly,  and she set David and Kimberly against each other.  When Kimberly makes a rule, David grants the girls dispensation from it.  She wants to help the girls in the most effective way possible even if that means that they stay away from home for a time.

David wants to help them, but wants it done closer to home. 

Dr. Phil says that there’s no way to straighten out the girls as well, that is closer to where they live.  David is in over his head with these girls.  It’s not always best for the children to do for them what makes their parents feel good.  He listed the many problems the girls are continuing to have as evidence to David that keeping the girls at home is not fixing them. 

Next: They’re going to talk about a near-death experience that may be making David hold onto and spoil his girls so much.  David was shot once, and almost died. 

Segment 6

David was shot by a would-be carjacker, who got into his truck along with him, and wanted David to drive.  David decided not to comply and attempted to leave the truck, when the young punk shot him with a 40 caliber pistol.  The result: David now fears dying without his girls near him. 

The Aspen Group did not support David’s choice to bring the girls home after the Turnabout Ranch experience.  But he did it anyway. 

Dr. Phil apologized to a representative from Aspen (Patty) for David’s ungrateful email. After David’s ranting email, Dr. Phil is a bit reluctant to help them further. 

Kimberly is begging David to agree to send the girls back to the Aspen Group’s care.  Kimberly says that David may be a bit dense on these issues but that he does eventually come around.  She asks Dr. Phil to consider this before deciding whether to continue with his help offerings. 

Segment 7

Dr. Phil appears exasperated at David due to David’s ingratitude for all of the high-quality help that’s been offered.  He says that David is not ready to accept help yet.  Dr. Phil offered parenting help to Kimberly and David.  Dr. Phil says that if David gives much more flack about the quality of the help offered, that he will help David no more. 

Miles Adcox, CEO of an organization called Onsite, appears on the show today an has agreed to take Kimberly and David into their rigorous parenting program. 

The Aspen Group is a member of the CRC health group.   

That’s the end of this episode.  Take care. 

Tom Hesley

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Today’s Diet: 2011-03-29

Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

I keep this food diary to stay aware of just how many calories I’m eating daily, with the hope that it decreases the likelihood that I’ll overeat.    It seems to work, so here we go with another day…

Today’s weight: 181.0 pounds.  That’s up a pound from yesterday.  The 2011 year low weight so far: 177.5 pounds. The high weight is 184.5 pounds (established on 2011-03-07).

Today, I consumed the following items:

  • Herbal tea throughout the day. 0 calories.
  • 12:00 PM: 2 Texas hot dogs.  600 calories.
  • 12:05 PM: 1 medium order of French fries.  300 calories.
  • 04:00 PM: 2 cups of Genesis Today Acai Light juice with coconut water.  160 calories.
  • 05:30 PM: 1 bowl of Cheerios with a banana and organic skim milk.  500 calories.
  • 10:00 PM: 1 bag of popcorn with olive oil, Parmesan cheese, and basil.  500 calories.
  • 10:15 PM: 2 cups of Genesis Today Acai Light juice with coconut water.  160 calories.

Total calories: 2220.

Tom Hesley

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Today’s Business: 2011-03-28

Monday, March 28th, 2011

Today’s Activities

  • Shower. DONE.
  • Cat duty. DONE.
  • Pay all (4) pending bills.  DONE.

Log

10:40 AM: I’m up. 

12:30 PM: Paid bills and completed Mom’s federal and state tax forms and sent them in.

01:00 PM: Posted the   Dr. Phil Episode Notes: Happy Birthday, Avery   piece.

02:45 PM: Watched today’s episode of   The Young and the Restless   on the DVR.

05:10 PM: Carried about half of the junk and other no-longer-needed items out of the attic, down to the east porch.  I also rearranged some of the remaining items there for quicker locating and easier access.  I’m tired of having to squeeze my way back through all those old clothes, decorations, and wires all the time.

06:15 PM: Watched today’s   Dr. Phil   episode:   Happy Birthday, Avery,   and took notes.  These are posted   here

07:00 PM: Watched tonight’s episode of   NBC’s Nightly News   live this time.

08:00 PM: Watched President Obama’s speech tonight, in which he justified his decision to move against the Libyan leader, to prevent him from turning his guns on his own people.  Good choice I think. 

11:00 PM: Watched tonight’s rerun episode of   Hawaii Five-0   with   [Emmy]   via the phone.

12:15 AM: I recorded in my audio journal for the last hour.

12:25 AM: Reviewed today’s traffic stats on my blogs.  The thirty day unique keyword hit count has risen from 823 up to 860; yet another high record. I love it. 

12:30 AM: Bed time.  Good night, until the morning comes around again. 

Tom Hesley

Received Mail and Shipments

  • Health and wellness program information fromy my medical insurance company.
  • Offer from AT&T for cell phone service.  Not at this time, thanks.
  • A 10% off coupon from Bed Bath & Beyond.
  • Misc. bills.
  • Offer for a Bankamnericard.  Not at this time, thanks.

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